INTERCULTURALTMARRIAGE · Pre-marriageTcounselingTwouldThelpTtoTsmoothenTtheTbeginningTofTtheTmarriage,TdueTtoTtheTdifferences · AvoidingTconversionsTtoTotherTandThaveTfaithTinTwhatTtheyTalwaysTbelievedTinTandTnotTtoTchangeTbecauseTofTaTmarriage. · ParentsTshouldTalwaysTgiveTtheirTblessingsTtoTaTmarriageTnoTmatterThowTmuchTtheyTlikeTitTorTnot,TbecauseTitTdoesTaffectTtheTcoupleTemotionallyTandTpsychologically ·

INTERCULTURALTMARRIAGE

 

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InterculturalTCommunication

DepartmentTofTEnglishTLiterature
UniversityTofTSargodha,TSargodhaTPakistan

 

 

 

1-Introduction:

 

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InterculturalTMarriageTisTaTunionTofTtwoTpeopleTinvolvingTnumerousTculturesTandTbackgrounds.T

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ItTisTalsoTknownTasTanTinternationalTmarriage,TorTtransnationalTmarriage.

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ItTisTaTmarriageTbetweenTtwoTpeopleTfromTdifferentTculturesTorTcountries.T

 

 

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ThereTisTinterculturalTmarriagesTpresentTwithinTtheTcountryTalsoTlikeTinTIndia,TTheTcultureTofTIndiaTisTanTamalgamationTofTtheseTdiverseTsub-culturesT&Tit’sTboundariesTareTlargelyTdrawnTbasedTonTlinguisticTgroups;TthisTdecisionTledTtoTtheTpreservationTandTcontinuationTofTlocalTethno-linguisticTcultures.TThus,TstatesTdifferTfromToneTanotherTinTlanguage,Tculture,Tcuisine,Tclothing,TliteraryTstyle,Tarchitecture,Tmusic.

 

 

 

 

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InTanTageTofTincreasingTglobalization,TwhereTaTgrowingTnumberTofTpeopleThaveTtiesTtoTnetworksTofTpeopleTandTplacesTacrossTtheTglobe,TratherTthanTtoTaTcurrentTgeographicTlocation,TpeopleTareTincreasinglyTmarryingTacrossTnationalTboundaries.TTransnationalTmarriageTisTaTby-productTofTtheTmovementTandTmigrationTofTpeople.

 

 

 

PercentageTofTmenTandTwomenTlivingTasTaTcoupleTwhoTwereTinTinter-ethnicTrelationships

 

 

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Culture:

TheTworldTisTanTinterestingTandTaTdiverseTplaceTtoTliveTin.TWhenTtwoTvariousTculturesTcombineTtogether,TthereTmayTbeTsignificantTchallengesTtheyThaveTtoTface.TEachTraceTensuresTitsTownTculture.TATcultureTmayTdifferTfromToneTtoTanotherTdueTsociallyTtransmittedTbehaviorTpatterns,Tarts,Tbeliefs,Tinstitutions,TandTallTotherTproductsTofThumanTworkTandTthought.TCultureTisTaTsystemTofTsharedTbeliefsTandTvaluesTandTisTconstantlyTevolvingTandTchangingTaroundTtheTworld.TTheTpresenceTofTinterculturalTmarriagesTandTintimacyTisTclearTandTexpandingTinTsocietiesTthroughoutTtheTCultureTmayTconsistTofTsharedTlanguage,Treligion,TorTethnicity.

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InterculturalTCommunication:

CommunicationTisTdefinedTasTaTprocessTofTsharingTandTcreatingTmeaningTbetweenTindividualsT(GudykunstT,T2001).TItTisTaTtoolTusedTbyTallThumansTregardlessTofTtheTcultureTfromTwhichTtheyTcomeTandTisTcrucialTtoTtheTsurvivalTofThumansT(Casmir,T1978).

InterculturalTcommunicationTisTaTdisciplineTthatTstudiesTcommunicationTacrossTdifferentTculturesTandTsocialTgroups,TorThowTcultureTaffectsTcommunication.TItTisTusedTtoTdescribeTtheTwideTrangeTofTcommunicationTprocessesTandTproblemsTthatTnaturallyTappearTwithinTanTorganizationTorTsocialTcontextTmadeTupTofTindividualsTfromTdifferentTreligious,Tsocial,Tethnic,TandTeducationalTbackgrounds.

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CommunicationTstyleT:

 

CommunicationTstyleTandTinterpersonalTrelationshipsTareTfundamentalTaspectsTofTcultureTandTcanTvaryTdramaticallyTfromToneTcultureTtoTanother.TThereTmayTbeTlanguageTandTcommunicationTbarriers.TItTisTworthyTtoTrememberTthatTeveryoneTonTthisTearthThasTculture,TnotTjustTthoseTclustersTthatTareTconsideredT’civilized’.TTheTmajorityTofTcultureTisTunseen,TbelowTtheTsurface.

ForTexample,TwhenTaTRussianTmanTmarriesTanTItalianTitTisTnotTonlyTtheTdifferencesTinTnativeTlanguageT(RussianTvs.TItalian)TandTreligionT(EasternTOrthodoxTvs.TRomanTCatholic)TbutTalsoTaThostTofTculturalTdifferencesTassociatedTwithTsuchTfactorsTasTexpressionTofTemotion,TconflictTexpressionTandTmanagement,TtheTroleTofTtheTfTfamilyTofToriginTinTraisingTchildren(TSullivanT,2007)TheTbeliefsTandTvaluesTthatTlieTbeneathTtheTsurfaceTcanTbeTtheTmostTdifficultTtoTchangeTwhenTitTisTnecessary.(ProgressiveTScholar,2010)interracialTmarriagesTareTnotTalwaysTinterculturalTmarriages,TasTinTsomeTcountries,TforTexampleTUnitedTStates,TpeopleTofTdifferentTracesTcanTshareTtheTsameTculturalTbackground.

ItTisTeasyTtoTcomprehendTwhyTitTisTdifficultTtoTletTgoTofTaTtraditionTorTexpectation.TItTisn’tTeasyTtoTdealTwithTtheTlegacyTthatTwe’veTallTgrownTupTwithTinTourTethnic,TreligiousTandTsocio-economicTbackgrounds.

2-AdvantagesTofTInterculturalTmarriage:

Cross-culturalTmarriagesThaveTtheTcapacityTtoTexpandTyourTmindTandTalterThowTyouTviewTtheTworld.TMakingTaTcross-culturalTmarriageTworkTtakesTtime,TbutTtheTinvestmentTcanTleadTtoTaTrichTrelationship.TBlendingTculturesTcreatesTaTpowerfulTandTdistinctTbondTforTyouTandTyourTspouse.TATlotTofTtimesTpeopleTonlyTdiscussTtheTstrugglesTofTbeingTinTanTinterculturalTrelationship,TbutTIThaveTfoundTthatTtheTbenefitsTfarTout-weighTtheTbad.TYourTabilityTtoTwithstandTtheTchallengesTofTanTinterracialTrelationshipThasTtheTpotentialTtoTmakeTitTthatTmuchTmoreTrewarding.TAfterTall,TtheseTchallengesTareToftenTcounterbalancedTbyTadvantagesTandTotherTpointsTofTattraction.TSomeTofTthoseTadvantagesTareTdiscussedTbelow

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AppreciationTforTCulture

YouTlearnTtoTappreciateTanotherTculture.TThisTawarenessTchangesThowTyouTviewTthatTculture,TtheTpeopleTwithinTitTandTyourTculture.TYouTmayTbetterTunderstandTtheTnuancesTinTaTcross-culturalTexchange.TYouTcanTdevelopTaTloveTforThowTanotherTcultureTapproachesTfamilyTandTmarriage,TasTwellTasThowTcultureTinfluencesTpeople.TAsTyouTandTyourTspouseTappreciateTyourTdifferentTcultures,TyouTwillTgrowTinTrespectTforTeachTother.

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DifferentTFoods

TryingTnewTfoodsTisTaTdistinctTadvantageTinTcross-culturalTmarriages.TYouTexposeTyourselfTtoTdifferentTspices,TvegetablesTandTotherTingredientsTwhenTyouTandTyourTwifeTcombineTcultures.TYouTmayTfindTwaysTtoTputTaTculturalTtwistTinTcommonTdishes.TForTexample,TifTyouTareTAmericanTandTmarryTanTAsianTwoman,TyouTmayTlearnTtoTuseTdarkTsesameToil,TaTcommonTingredientTinTstirTfry,TtoTaddTaTnutty,TrichTflavor.

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IntegratedTValues

CombiningTculturesToftenTmeansTintegratingTvalueTsystems,TprovidingTaTglobalTadvantageTinTyourTmarriage.TYouTcanTsynthesizeTvaluableTtenetsTofTotherTcultures.TThisTnewTframeworkTsetsTtheTstageTforTyourTrelationshipTandTcreatesTaTone-of-a-kindTsetTofTvaluesTthatTdefineTit.TForTinstance,TmanyTLatinoTculturesTemphasizeTtheTroleTofTfamilyTandTmanyTAmericansTvalueTindependence.TIfTyouTareTmarriedTtoTaTLatino,TcombineThisTstrongTfamilyTvaluesTwithTaTsenseTofTindependence.

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AbilityTtoTCompromise

AnTimportantTadvantageTtoTcross-culturalTmarriageTisTtheTabilityTtoTcompromise.TToTcombineTcultures,TyouThaveTtoTbeTableTtoTnegotiateTwhatTisTbeneficialTforTyourTmarriageTandTwhatTisn’t.TYouTlearnTwhichTpartsTofTyourTcultureTstrengthenTaTrelationshipTandTwhichTonesTdon’t.TCreatingTthisTfoundationTtakesTmentalTandTemotionalTstrengthTbutTalsoTloveTforTyourTspouse.TWhenTyouTundertakeTthisTprocessTsuccessfully,TyouTbothTdevelopTaTsenseTofTwhatTitTtakesTtoTcompromise.

 

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BilingualTchildrenT

InTsomeTfamiliesTwhereTeachTparentTcomesTfromTaTdifferentTcountry,TtheirTchildrenTwillTnaturallyTgrowTupTbilingual.TItTisTworthTtheTworkTandTtimeTtoTencourageTyourTkidsTtoTlearnTtheTnativeTlanguageTofTtheirTfatherTorTmotherTasTwellTtheTtraditionsTofTthatTculture.TItTcanTbeThardTwork,TbutTtheTresultTisTsoTworth,TespeciallyTforTtheTfutureTwhetherTitTwouldTbeTsocialTorTprofessional.

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TravellingTtogether

OneTadvantageTofTbeingTmarriedTtoTsomeoneTfromTanotherTcountryTisTthatTyouTgetTtoTtravelTfromTtimeTtoTtime.TWhenTyouTcanTtravel,TmakeTsureTtoTvisitTyourTspouse’sTfamilyTandTlearnTaboutTtheirTcultureTfirsthand.TYouTwillTappreciateTitTevenTmore.

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ATchanceTtoTlearnTdifferentTlanguageT(s)

MostTpeopleTwouldTlikeTtoTlearnTanotherTlanguage,TbutTtheyThaveTtoTsignTupTforTaTclassTandTfindTaTwayTtoTpracticeTit.TWhenTyouTmarryTaTspouseTfromTaTdifferentTculture,TyouTautomaticallyThaveTaTlanguageTteacher.TJustTfromToverhearingTthem,TconverseTwithTtheirTfamily,TyouTcanTpickTupTonTmanyTwordsTandTpronunciation.

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YourTfriendsTandTfamilyTareTintroducedTtoTdiversity.

InTanTinterculturalTrelationship,TyourTmindTisTcontinuallyTopenedTtoTdifferentTwaysTofTlife.TOneTofTtheTunforeseenTsideTeffectsTofTthisTisTthatTitTpositivelyTaffectsTyourTfriends,Tfamily,TandTcommunity.TWeTintroduceTourTfriendsTtoTourTrespectiveTculturesTbyTsharingTourTtravelTexperiences,TinvitingTthemTtoTfestivals,TandTmakingTthemTtryTnewTdishes.TAnotherTimportantTthingTisTthatTweTbreakTaTlotTofTstereotypes.

 

 

3-DisadvantagesTofTinterculturalTmarriage:

 

ThoughTitTseemsTtoTbeTaTveryTromanticTloveTstoryTinTtheTbeginningTbutTtheTtruthTis,TitTcanTbeTveryTchallengingTandTfrustratingTinTrealTlife.TAndTitTisTsimplyTnotTaboutTbeingTracist,TmarriageThasTaTdeeperTmeaningTtoTit,TwhichTdwellsTinTunderstandingTit,TisTpossibleTtoThaveTextremelyTstrongTandTnaturalTnegativeTfeelingsTsurroundingTanTinterracialTrelationshipTorTaTmarriageTevenTthoughTyou’reTnotTconsiderTasTracist.TLegalTorTnotTillegalTtheTquestionTisTshouldTinterracialTmarriagesTbeenTencouraged?TTheTunionTbetweenTtwoTdifferentTculturesTaltogetherTwillTgiveTspaceTtoTdifferentTexperiencesTandTopportunitiesTinTlife,TbutTmostlyTdifficultiesTinTtheTmarriageTlifeTwhereTitTisTconcerned.TAdoptionsTtoTaTdifferentTcultureTaltogetherTmaybeTnotTturnToutTtoTbeTanTeasyTtask.

TheTmainTintentionTofTgettingTmarriageTisTtoTemotionally,TspirituallyTandTphysicallyTuniteTaTmenTandTwomenTtogether,TasThusbandTandTwife,TitTisTaTcommitmentTmadeTinTtheTpresenceTofTGod,TandTisTvalidTuntilTdeath.TInterculturalTmarriagesTareToftenTinfluencedTbyTexternalTfactorsTthatTcanTcreateTconfrontation,TandTdisagreementTinTrelationships.TDifferentTculturesTendureTvastlyTdiverseTmoral,TethicalTandTvalueTfoundationsTthatTinfluenceTtheirTperceptionsTofTindividual,TfamilyTandTsocietalTlifestyle.TWhenTtheseTfundamentalsTareToperatingTalongsideTtheTfoundationTofTdifferentTculturalTroots,TasTinTinterculturalTmarriages,TproblemsTandTdisagreementToftenTtimesToccur.TItTtakesTeffortTtoTcombineTtwoTculturesTsuccessfully,TandTaTwillingTattitudeTtoTlearnTfromTbothTpartners.

 

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CulturalTshock

 

TheTfirstTargumentTagainstTinterculturalTmarriagesTisTtheTculturalTshockT(adaptationTtoTaTnewTculture).TWhenTconsideringTanTinterculturalTmarriageTeitherToneTofTtheTpartnersThaveTtoTgetTintroducedTtoTaTnewTculture.TIdeallyTbothThaveTtoTgetTuseTtoTeachTother’sTculturesTandTlawsTtoTsurviveTtheTmarriageTandTthisTwillTcreateTaTlotTofTproblemsTinTtheTprocess.

TForTanTexampleT-TATnonTMuslimTmarryingTaTMuslimTwillThaveTtoTobeyTtoTcertainTlawsTinTIslam;TIslamTforbidsTmarriageTbetweenTMuslimTwomenTandTnon-MuslimTmen.TTherefore,TanyTpartnerTwillThaveTtoTconvertTandTobeyTIslamicTrulesT(soundTvision,T2010).TInTtheTcaseTofTMuslimTmenTmarryingTJewishTandTChristianTwomen,TtheTsituationTisTdifferent.

WhileTIslamTdoesTallowTthis,TMuslimTmenTmarryingTJewsTandTChristiansTneedTtoTrememberTthatTlivingTinTtheTWest,TifTtheyTendTupTdivorcing,TtheTchildrenTwillTalmostTautomaticallyTbeTgivenTtoTtheTmother.TTheTconvertingTprocessTfromToneTreligionTtoTanotherTandTadaptingTtoTnewTlawsTwillTcreateTmassiveTproblemsTthatTwillTevenTendTtheTmarriage.TAdditionalTwrinkleTinTU.S.TMuslimTfamilyTlawTpracticesTstemsTfromTtheTstructureTofTauthorityTinTIslamicTjurisprudenceTsinceTthereThasTneverTbeenTanTofficialTchurchTcertifyingTindividualsTtoTspeakTonTbehalfTofTtheTreligion,TtheTfieldTisTopenTforTanyTdedicatedTMuslimTtoTseekTtoTactTasTimamTandTleadTaTcommunityT(QuarishiT&TSyed-TMiller,T2001)Ttherefore,Tnon-MuslimsThaveTaTveryTrareTchanceTofTwinningTandTsurvivingTinTtheTmarriageTdueTtoTdifferentTlawsTinTdifferentTculturalTlaws.

 

 

 

 

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CulturalTdifferences

 

MovingTon,TInterculturalTmarriagesThaveTcontrastingTdifferencesTbetweenTtraditionsTandTcultures.TAlthoughTaTfewTstudiesThaveTlookedTintoTthisTaspect,TculturalTdifferencesTalsoTstimulateTmaritalTconflictsTparticularlyTinTinterculturalTmarriages.TInTfact,TtheTquantitativeTstudyTofTTakanoT(2002),TpointedToutTthatT19%TofTtheTmaritalTdiscordsTinTinterethnicTcouplesTinvolvedTinThisTstudyTareTattributedTtoTculturalTdifferences.).TCouplesTthatTenterTaTcross-culturalTmarriageTbringTintoTtheirTrelationshipTvastlyTdiverseTassumptionsTandTexpectationsTaboutTmarriageTandTfamilyTlife.

ManyTofTtheseTassumptionsTflowToutTofTtheTvalues,TunspokenTrulesTandTbeliefTsystemsTthatTpermeateTtheirTprimaryTcultures.TTheseTunspokenTvaluesThaveTbecomeTsoTmuchTaTpartTofTtheirTlivesTthatTtheyTareTalmostThiddenTfromTview.T

ForTanTexampleTtheTwayTofTcelebratingTChristmasTisTdifferentTinTGermanyTratherTthanTAmerica.TInTfact,TmanyTofTtheseTculturalTdifferencesTdoTnotTsurfaceTuntilTafterTtheTcoupleTisTmarried.THowever,TnewTexperiencesTandTnewTcultureTaltogetherTmayTinterestTanTadventurousTspouseTasTit’sTaTuniqueTonceTinTaTlifeTtimeTexperienceTandTtheTdifficultiesTgreatlyTdependTonThowTreligiousTandTculturallyTbondTtheTfamiliesTare.

 

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NewTEnvironment

 

NotTallTthinkToutTofTtheTbox,TnewTstrangeTland,TparentsTandTlanguageTmayTcauseTdistressTinTtheTbeginningTofTtheTmarriageTlife.TOneTspouseTwillTliveTinTtheTcountryTofToriginTandTtheTotherTwillTbeTaTstrangerTinTaTstrangeTlandTtheTpleasantnessTmayTbeTfallTapartTafterTsometimeTwhenTtryingTtoTfitTintoTaTdifferentTfamily,Tculture.T

 

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DifferentTcustoms

 

MarriageTandTcustomsTdifferTfromToneTcountryTandTtoTanotherTculture.

FigureT1-ATtraditionalTbrideTwearingTtheTtsunokakushiThatToverTshimadaTwig

ForTexample,TIndianTmarriageTcustomsTareTvaryingTfromTmarriageTcustomsTofTChineseTtraditions.TInTJapanTtheTJapaneseTbrideTtoTbeTpaintedTpureTwhiteTfromTheadTtoTtoe,TvisiblyTdeclaringTherTmaidenTstatusTtoTtheTgods.TThereTareTtwoTchoicesTofTheadgearTexist.TOneTwhichTis,TtheTwatabÅTshi,TisTaTwhiteThood,TtheTotherTisTcalledTtheTtsunokakushi,TservesTtoThideTtheTbride’sT’hornsTofTjealousy.’TItTalsoTsymbolizesTtheTbride’sTintentionTtoTbecomeTaTgentleTandTobedientTwife.T

 

FigureT2-TIndianTbrideTonTherTSangeet

DuringTtheTperiodTofTtheTtraditionalTIndianTweddingTdays,TthereTwouldTbeTaTtilakTceremonyT(whereTtheTgroomTisTanointedTonThisTforehead),TaTceremonyTforTadorningTtheTbride’sThandTthenTcoverTtheTfeetTwithThennaT(calledTmehendi)TaccompaniedTbyTLadies’TSangeetT(musicTandTdance)TandTmanyTotherTpre-weddingTceremonies.THence,TmarriageTtraditions,TcustomsTandTbeliefsTmayTclashTdueTtoTaboveTpointsTmentionedTsoTfar.

 

 

 

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DifferentTreligionsT

 

ReligionTrunsTdeeperTsinceTtheyTpracticeTtheirTfaithTandTitTisTaTpartTofTtheirTculturalTidentityTthatTtheyTwantTtoThangTonTto.TTheTaccurate,TcustomsTandTspecialTdaysTassociatedTwithTtheTreligionTremainTsignificantTtoTthem.TTheTregardingTworshipTofTtheTchildrenTwillTmatterTsomeTreligionsTdenyTtheTvalidityTofTallTothersTandTinsistTonTconversionsTorTdemandTthatTtheTchildrenTshouldTbeTbroughtTupTinTthatTreligion.TATcoupleTmightTfaceTdifficultyTinTdecidingTonTthisTaboveTpointTandTtheTspouseTformTtheTotherTreligionTmayTfeelTinferiorTandTdown.T

ForTexampleTOrthodoxTJudaismTteachesTthatTtheTfamilyTmustTrepudiateT(sitTshivahTfor)TaTchildTwhoTmarriesTaTnon-Jew:TIslamTdemandsTobedienceTtoTgod’sTlawTonlyTasTrevealedTbyTMuhammad,TandTalsoTrequiresTthatTaTMuslimTmarryTaTfellowTMuslim.TTheTcatholicTchurchesTuntilTrecentTyearsTinsistedTthatTaTnon-CatholicTpartnerTsignTaTprenuptialTagreementTtoTraiseTanyTcatholicTchildren.TParticularTChristianTsectsTpreachTthatTallToutsidersTareTdamnedTtoTeternalTfireTandTprohibitTanyTmarriageTtoTpeopleTofTdifferentTfaith.TAtTthisTspecificTpointTtheTproblemTmayToccurTwithTtheTfaithTplaysTaTmajorTroleTinTdecisionTmakingTthisTisTifTtheTpartnerTisTintenselyTreligious.

 

 

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DifferentTlanguages

 

TIfTtheTcouplesTspeakTdifferentTlanguages,TsubtleTmiscommunicationTmayTcreateTmisunderstandingTandTmaritalTconflicts.TAsTtheyTapproachTonTeachTother’sTseparateTterritory,TthereTisTaTnewTlanguage,TnewTcustomsTandTaTnewTstandardTofT”normal”TtoTbeTlearned.T

 

 

 

 

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DisapprovalTfromTparentsT

 

DisapprovalTfromTparentsTforTaTcrossTculturalTmarriageTisTcustomary.TParentsTshouldTplayTaTmajorTroleTinTtheirTchildren’sTmarriageTsetTup.TAsTaTmatterTofTfactTtheTparentsTfearTtoTriskTtheTlifeTofTtheirTunmarriedTchildrenTwhoTmightTfaceTdiscriminationTfromTtheTpartner’sTfamilyTmembers.TThereTmayTalsoTbeTcommunicationTproblemsTifTtheyTspeakTdifferentTlanguages.TAndTitTisTtypicalTofTparentsTtoTwantTtheirTchildrenTtoTfindTaTspouseTfromTtheirTownTreligionTandTculture,TjustTtoTmakeTlifeTeasier,TandTthisTaTbetterTplaceTtoTlive.TThereTareTsituationsTwhereTtheyTdecideTtoTmigrateTtoTtheTspouse’sTcountry,TwhichTisTlivingTfarTawayTfromTtheirTownTfamily.TTheTparentsTofTanTinterracialTcoupleTusuallyTfeelTthatTtheyThaveTbeenTloweredTbyTtheirTchildren.TATcrossTculturalTcommunicationTinTaTmarriageTshouldTrespectTdifferences.TInTmarriageTyouTjustTdon’tTmarryTanotherTyouTinterconnectTwithTaTanotherTfamilyTasTaTwholeT.InterculturalTmarriagesTcanTalsoTincludeTpeopleTfromTdifferentTracesTgettingTtogetherT,aTsituationTwhereTthereTisTmuchTmoreTcomplicatedTissuesTwhenTitTcomesTtoTmarriage.(theTculturalTdifferenceTisTgreater).

 

 

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RejectionTfromTsociety

 

AnotherTproblemTisTthatTmanyTofTtheTcouplesThaveTtoTencounterTisTsocietalTdisapproval.TWeThaveTtoTcopeTupTwithTourTsocietyTinTspiteTofTourTownTopinion.TTheTsocietyTonTtheTotherThandTconsidersTinterculturalTmarriagesTasTstrayingTfromTtraditionalTvalues.TATSocietyTisTanTorganizationTofTpeopleTwhoTshareTaTcommonTculturalTandTsocialTbackground.T(Oak,T2007)TTheTconsequencesTofTmarriageTaffectTeveryTaspectTofTsociety.TItToccupiesTtheTmostTintimateTaspectTofTpersonalTprivacyTandTpersonalTloveTandTreachesTtheTpillarsTofTtheTsacredTinstitutionsTofTaTculture.TMarriageTisTtheTpillarTofTsociety,TbutTitTisTalsoTtheTpillarTofTgovernment,Tbusiness,TandTtheTmilitary.T(Wood,T2010)ThereTareTmereTopenTmindedTpeopleTwhoTwouldTgiveTallTtheTsupportTtheyTcan,TthereTwillTalwaysTbeTothersTwhoTwouldTmakeTtheTcoupleTfeelTunwelcome.TTheTmostTabusiveTtreatmentTwouldTcomeTfromTotherTchildren.TDuringTcourtship,TmanyTofTtheTracialTdifferencesTmightThaveToverlooked,TbutTafterTmarriageTtheTcoupleTmightTfindTtTdifficultTtoTmakeTadjustmentTasTeachTgroupTpracticesTaTdifferentTwayTofTlife.TAnotherTdiscouragingToccursTwhenTtheTcouplesTtryTtoTparticipateTinTsocialTorganizations.TAlthoughTsociety’sTdisapprovalTwillTnotTaffectTtheTcoupleTasTseriouslyTasTparentalTdisapproval,TitTisTstillTanTissueTthatTcannotTbeTignored.TSureTasTitTisTmulticulturalTmarriageTrequiresTaTlotTofTsacrifice.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

4-Recommendations:

 

InterculturalTmarriagesTareTfacedTwithTmanyTbarriers,TdueTtoTfamilyTissuesTandTadaptationTtoTtheTculture.TATmarriageTisTnotTeasyTtoTmaintainTandTitTisTmoreTchallengingTasTit’sTanTinterculturalTmarriage.TAsTinTthisTmodernTeraTpeopleTshouldTbeTmoreTacceptingTandTdiverse.

 

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ParentsTshouldTbeTmoreTattentiveTaboutTtheTunmarriedTchildren’sTdesires,TthinkTmoreToutTofTtheTboxTandTsupportTthemTthroughoutTregardlessTofTtheTculturalTbarriers.TTheyTshouldTfocusTmoreTonTtheTpersonTandTtheTcharacterTandTnotTjudgeTthemTbyTtheTraceTorTreligionTthatTpersonTbelongsTto.

 

 

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Pre-marriageTcounselingTwouldThelpTtoTsmoothenTtheTbeginningTofTtheTmarriage,TdueTtoTtheTdifferences

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AvoidingTconversionsTtoTotherTandThaveTfaithTinTwhatTtheyTalwaysTbelievedTinTandTnotTtoTchangeTbecauseTofTaTmarriage.

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ParentsTshouldTalwaysTgiveTtheirTblessingsTtoTaTmarriageTnoTmatterThowTmuchTtheyTlikeTitTorTnot,TbecauseTitTdoesTaffectTtheTcoupleTemotionallyTandTpsychologically

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TheTsocietyTshouldTbeTmoreTacceptingTtoTdifferences

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TheyTcoupleTshouldTgetTtogetherTandTspendTmoreTtimeTeachTofTtheirTfamily’sTandTtheTplacesTtheyTwereTboughtTupT,forTtheTspouseTtoTfeelTcomfortableTandTlessTstrangeTinTadoptTtoTchanges

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FamilyTandTrelativesTshouldTalwaysThelpTandTsupportTtheTcoupleTthroughoutTbecauseTit’sTaTtoughTchallengeTtheyThaveTtoTface.

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ExtraTattentionTshouldTbeTgivenTtoTtheTdifferencesTandTweakTpointsTofTtheTcoupleTsoTtheyTcanTworkTonTitTbeforeTthingsTgoToutTofThandTasTitTisTveryTmuchTpossibleTdueTtoTtheTdifferencesTinTeachTother

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ForTtraditionsTandTculturesTtoTbeTcontinuedTtillTtodayTpeopleTshouldTbeTmoreTrationalTandTmoral.

 

5-TConclusion:

 

BeingTinTanTinterculturalTrelationshipTisTnotTeasy;Tit’sTtheTexperienceTofTaTlifetime.TButTnoTmatterThowTdifficultTitTisTtoTgetTmarriedTtoTsomeoneTwhoTdoesTnotTbelongTtoTyourTcountry,TInternationalTMarriagesTareTstillTquiteTprevalentTnowadays.TTheTreasonTbehindTtheTprevalenceTofTthisTinstitutionTisTloveTandTunderstandingTwhichTareTessentialTtoTmakeTanyTmarriageTsuccessful.TATmarriageTwithinTtwoTdifferentTculturesThasTnoTsecrets.TYouTneedTtheTsameTorTgreaterTeffortTtoTdoTtheTthingsTthatTyouTwouldTdoTinTanyTrelationship.TIfTyouThaveTlove,TpatienceTandTyouTwantTtoTunderstandTeachTother,TnothingTisTimpossible,TandTtheseTculturalTdifferencesTcanTmakeTforTaTfunTandTinterestingTrelationship.