Romantic to cheat and the percentage has not

Romantic relationships have a
level of complexity that often leads to emotional and mental exhaustion. This
is more pronounced when the men in the relationship decide to engage in
infidelity. There is a common perception that has been ingrained in our minds
that relationships are monogamous. In other words, one man one woman but the
society has changed and open relationships are embraced by the society. The
open relationships are not regarded as cheating when the partners agree. The
lack of agreement among the partners to involve another party in a romantic
relationship is what constitutes of cheating. 
The Kinsey study conducted in the 1950’s revealed that 50% of the men
are inclined to cheat and the percentage has not changed on a larger scale in
today’s world (9 excuses you will hear from cheating men). The paper will show
three major reasons why men cheat in relationships.

The evolutionary and societal
perception of the male gender as superior to the female gender is one of the
main reasons why men cheat. From the evolutionary perspective, males were given
an open field to impregnate different women to increase the chances of their
species surviving. The survival of the fittest was egged on having many
children to guarantee that a particular generation tree will have continuity.

The aspect could have contributed to the male brain being programmed to embrace
cheating as a norm (Stewart).

Moreover, this is supported by
a research conducted by Walumm and colleagues in 2008 that studied 552 couples
who were in a married relationship or co-habiting for a period of no less than
5 years. The research revealed that cheating was genetic and the males that had
334 vasopressin allele gene in a particular region of the vasopressin system
had lower scores on the Partner Bonding Scale. In addition, those who had two
of the genes were more prone to have a detachment from their partners. The
research failed to investigate the issue of cheating directly but focused on
attributes that are correlated to infidelity. The detachment from their
partners leads to the increase in levels of cheating among the men (Ted Guest
Author).

Furthermore, from the societal
perspectives, the competitive nature has been ingrained in the males from a
young age. During the adolescent period, male supremacy is portrayed by having
multiple partners. The perceptions in some males tend to remain with them as
they transition into adulthood which increases their ability to cheat (Stewart
165). Additionally, in the traditional and Arab nations society’s men have been
given the privilege to cheat on the pretext of dominant species. Men are
expected to have many wives as a symbol of one’s wealth or responsible
behavior. The aspect has encouraged cheating among men while undermining women
(Neuman 35)

Women are expected to be
virtuous and remain with one man throughout their entire relationships. Women
who have multiple partners are shunned and ostracized from the society while
the men are glorified for their promiscuity. The society giving the men the
green light to cheat without any consequences has increased infidelity in
relationships. Men believe that they have the right to have partners outside
their relationship to exercise their masculinity and boost their egos (Neuman
35)

The second reason why men
cheat is as a result of emotional dissatisfaction with their partners. Men are
also emotional when it comes to relationships despite the common notion that
they are only visual. The emotional dissatisfaction is a form of detachment
where the partner fails to connect with the needs of their partner (Urooj,
Anum, and Anjum 436). In addition, a research conducted by Neuman revealed that
they cheat as a result of the following reason emotional dissatisfaction rated
59%, sexual dissatisfaction 29%, and finally 12% for other reasons. Emotional
dissatisfaction differs on a larger scale from one person to another (4).

Constant fights at home lead
to an emotional detachment from the partners. Males are at a loss for words
when it comes to arguments they are more inclined to use their physical
strength rather than words to resolve conflicts. In order to avoid violence in
their relationships, they tend to disengage their emotions during the arguments.

In most cases, they flee from their partners and in this state of emotional
turmoil they are likely to cheat. The cheating is manifested as a way for them
to seek consolation and stability from their prevailing situation (Stewart
183).

In addition, in the past, the
men were the providers and the women stayed at home dependent on them. The
change in dimensions either positions them at similar footing or at times the
women are the providers while the men are the dependents. This worsens the
relationship scenario and causes the men to become emotionally disengaged from
the relationship. The men become more insecure in the relationship and this
increases their ability to cheat. In such cases, the men often cheat when their
wives earn more than them or have a higher position with someone who is at a
lower standing (Urooj and Gulnaz 423).

Men want their partners to
make them feel appreciated for their effort in the relationship. The
appreciation defers it can be a pat on the back for an action that they have done.

Acknowledgement by their wives by giving them rewards. The rewards differ from
preparing them a good meal to purchasing them a surprise gift. When the wives
fail to recognize the efforts of their women they become emotionally detached.

In such relationship, the men are more likely to cheat with any female who
praises them for their work, complements how they look and dress (Weiser and
Daniel 176).

The last reason that drives
men to cheat is sexual dissatisfaction in their marriage. The dissatisfaction
either stems from them viewing their women as less attractive or the decline of
sex in their marriages. 12% of men who are cheating claimed that their
mistresses were more attractive than their partners (Neuman 30). Men are visual
creatures and are stimulated by the people they come across. Most of the cases
of cheating often occur as a result of physical rather than emotional
connection among men. They are often attracted to a woman of a particular size,
the dressing or the use of make-up in a nice manner among other aspects. The
outward look of a woman often instigates sexual desires among the men which
make them engage in cheating (Sine) At times the cheating is done as one-time
occurrence which are commonly referred to as one night stands.

Additionally, according to
Larson sex has the power to build a strong relationship among couples. When sex
diminishes in a relationship the partners begin to drift apart. The diminish of
sex in a relationship arises from many reasons. Some of the major reasons are when
couples have children or increase in responsibilities in their work place which
leads to exhaustion for that person. Men have a high sex drive and think more
about sex than many women do (didn’t find this surprising). Based on a research
by Laumann, men who are aged under 60 thinks about sex no less than 6 times a
day. This increases their ability to crave for sexual activity from their
partners and when they repel them they are forced to cheat (Sine).

 Moreover, the change in the sexual preferences
that the partners enjoyed earlier in the relationship leads to men seeking
satisfaction elsewhere. In any relationship, sexual connection goes
simultaneously with the emotional connection. Relationships are different and
this is often marked by the sexual excitement that is present. When the
excitement decreases the chances of the man cheating increases. At such times,
the man is more vulnerable and when women show that they are interested in them
they are likely to encourage their advancement (Rodrigues, Lopes and Pereira
245).

Based on my
discussions and findings there are three specific issues that are very much key
in relationships. They include evolutionary and societal issues, emotional and
sexual dissatisfaction in their partners. The evolutionary and societal issues
are attributed to boosting a male’s ego. Giving the men this ego then allows
them to cheat, while the females of sort of pushed down to not cheat at all. In
addition, the emotional dissatisfaction makes men look for other partners to
make them feel valued and appreciated. Lastly, the sexual dissatisfaction that
arises from their partners withdrawing from sexual activities or them seeing
more attractive women makes them prone to cheating.